416 From Blackout Drinking to Divine Alignment: Paula Robbins' Recovery Story
There's a point in many recovery journeys where insight stops being the problem.
You know what to do.
You understand your patterns.
And yet… change still feels hard.
In this episode, I talk with Paula Robbins, author of Hitchhiking Into Recovery, who has over 37 years of sobriety, about why that happens—and what actually sustains healing over the long haul.
The Ride That Opened the Door
Paula's recovery didn't begin with a dramatic intervention. It began when she was picked up hitchhiking in 1988 by someone living a sober, connected life.
That single interaction mattered because it interrupted isolation.
Not with willpower.
With connection.
Addiction Is a Disconnection Problem
Paula grew up with trauma, neglect, and instability. Alcohol became a way to shut down overwhelming emotions long before she had language for what was happening.
By age 12, she was drinking to blackout.
What stands out isn't just the trauma—it's what was missing:
- Safety
- Emotional guidance
- Consistent connection
Addiction wasn't a moral failure. It was a survival strategy.
Feelings Aren't Facts
One of Paula's most grounding principles is simple:
Feelings and facts are not the same.
Recovery didn't eliminate difficult emotions—it created space to respond instead of react. That pause is where real change happens.
The Four Pillars That Sustain Recovery
After decades of sobriety, Paula distilled what actually works into four stabilizing forces:
- Community – healing happens in relationship
- Mentorship – someone to help you see clearly
- Service – contribution rebuilds self-esteem
- Daily spiritual alignment – prayer, meditation, or quiet time
These pillars show up in every effective recovery model because they address the root issue: disconnection.
Divine Alignment vs. Self-Will
Paula explains divine alignment not as certainty, but as a felt sense.
When she's controlling outcomes, she feels restless and tight.
When she surrenders—even briefly—things soften.
Sometimes all it takes is the simple phrase:
"Thy will be done."
A Gentle Reminder
If change feels hard, it doesn't mean you're failing.
It may simply mean effort isn't the missing piece—connection is.
One Small Action
Try just one:
- Strengthen one pillar that feels weak
- Take a 5-minute daily pause
- Offer one small act of service
- Notice a feeling without acting on it
Healing doesn't require fixing yourself.
It starts with not doing it alone.
Resources Mentioned
- Hitchhiking Into Recovery
- 12-Step Recovery Programs
- Step 3 Prayer
- Step 11: Prayer and Meditation
- Service work in recovery
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