408 Overcoming Betrayal And Suicidal Depression In Sobriety

How Journaling, Community & Self-Compassion Can Transform Recovery: A Conversation with Sonia

In this episode, Sonia from Sisters in Sobriety joins us for a deeply honest conversation about recovery, journaling, trauma, and rebuilding life after addiction.

Sonia shares how her drinking escalated from teenage experimentation to daily wine-drinking as a high-functioning professional. While she never had the "traditional" external bottom, she described being emotionally bottomed out — chronically ill, blacking out, and unable to imagine a future.

What finally shifted? A moment of clarity at brunch, when she said "no" to a mimosa for the first time.

From there, she began exploring sobriety through AA literature, community support, and eventually the practice that changed everything: journaling.

Key topics we covered:

• Moderation vs. abstinence: Some people can moderate; some can't. Addiction exists on a spectrum.
  
  
• Trauma and dissociation: Many of us learned early to ignore our intuition and numb discomfort.
  
  
• Healing through writing: Journaling processes emotions the same way talking to a friend does.
  
  
• Different journaling styles:
  
  
  • Morning pages (The Artist's Way)
    
    
  • Gratitude lists
    
    
  • Emotional processing
    
    
  • Prompt-based journaling
    
    
  • Somatic/body-scan journaling
    
    
• Rebuilding after betrayal: Journaling helped Sonia reclaim her identity after divorce.
  
  
• The importance of community: A network of supportive women helped her through the darkest moments.
  
  

ACTION ITEMS FOR LISTENERS

✔️ Try morning pages for 7 days — write 3 pages of unfiltered thoughts every morning.
✔️ Start a nightly gratitude list focusing on 3 things from that day.
✔️ Practice a weekly "body-scan journal session" and write about physical sensations + emotions.
✔️ Identify 3 people you can call when you're struggling — and practice willingness calls.
✔️ Reflect on the question: Can I moderate? — and be honest with your evidence.

BOOKS MENTIONED

• Blackout — Sarah Hepola
  
  
• Running with Scissors — Augusten Burroughs
  
  
• The Artist's Way — Julia Cameron
  
  
• The Power of Two-Way Prayer — Father Bill W.
  
  
• Radical Self-Acceptance — Tara Brach
  
  
• The Obstacle Is the Way — Ryan Holiday

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